Dating my life
Y’all have an open marriage, he could theoretically be with anyone in the world, and he chooses your mom?And your mother chooses the one man in the universe who is married to her daughter?It was my mother and, from the way they looked at each other and were touching, I could tell instantly that it was more than a friendly lunch; they were quite obviously in love with each other.My mother is 54 years old and is breathtakingly beautiful and, unlike me, hasn’t let her body go.My husband, who is also handsome and fit, looked like he was happier than I had ever seen him.I went to the toilet and threw up and then I dragged my lover out of the pub and went straight to the off-licence where I bought a litre bottle of vodka and drank it at his house until I passed out.I have a drinking problem but it is not a problem I feel any need to resolve and I am drawn to men who are also drinkers like me.I can have a glass of wine in the morning and drink until I pass out in the afternoon and wake up when my lover comes home and go to the pub with him and start drinking again.
This past Sunday my lover and I went to a country pub and I glanced in the dining room and saw my husband with a beautiful older woman, but not just any woman.And then I read it again and thought, well, this person sounds lonely as fuck and she had the guts to tell some judgy asshole strangers her story and if it’s real OH MY GOD her HUSBAND and her MOM are THE WORST PEOPLE and maybe we can help validate THAT if nothing else.Obviously the ick factor of a your husband having an affair with his wife’s mother is high.B) In between all the references to “her perfect body” and you pining for the companionable life of long talks and theatre visits you’ve lost, there’s the fact that this has been going on long enough for her to move into your house… That doesn’t mean his choices are your fault – I don’t know how your open marriage works or what ground rules you set but I’m pretty sure he owed you at least one direct “” this is a case of some deep, deep incompatibility and disconnection between the two of you. Did he know whether you ever wanted to come back from living with this most recent dude?
It sounds to me like you left him, slowly, on the installment plan, and then he decided to hasten the end by setting everything on fire, including the bridges. When you agreed to an open marriage, did you both envision a situation where either or both of you would move out for long periods of time?I have started stalking them, sitting in the car down the street from our house, drinking vodka from the bottle, and watching them come out hand in hand to play tennis in the courts down the street or go out to dinner.