Disabled persons dating site
And I don't think it's their fault, but I did see that there were more people than I realized who felt that way.
About a week after I got off Tinder, I reconnected with a guy I met a year ago at a restaurant who I was immediately drawn to at the time, and we later ended up going on a fantastic date and now we're kind of seeing where it goes.
I'd even vary how soon I would tell them, whether it was two days or a week into a great intellectual conversation or just a great sexy conversation, and every time had the same ending.
Sometimes they would literally say something like, "Well, can you still have sex?
Kristen, 30, is paralyzed from the waist down and gets around in a wheelchair.
She's single, and has lived in and dated on Tinder in three different cities — Los Angeles, Boston, and New York — and spoke with about what it's really like to Tinder date when you're paraplegic.
But then I worried if I didn't include it in the profile, I would feel like I was lying.I really think the way these guys treated me just has a lot to do with the stigma that's attached to being in a wheelchair because so many people look at you and they automatically assume certain things.I thought that by trying to let people get to know me before they got to knew I was in a wheelchair was a good plan, because then they'd see that I'm normal, and I travel by myself and live by myself, but other people won't let you be defined by anything other than being in a wheelchair. " And I wanted to say, "Of course I can, asshole." I seriously can't tell you how many Tinder guys asked me that as soon as I mentioned the wheelchair. " I seriously had to tell him, "I don't think it's going to be changing anytime soon." He just vanished and I was really bummed about it.
After that, a guy I was sexting with on Tinder for a few weeks replied to me casually telling him that I was in a wheelchair with, "Oh. All of that rejection based on being in a wheelchair really messes with your self-confidence.
The photos I used weren't cropped weirdly or anything — if you looked closely you could see it, but you wouldn't maybe notice it.