People dating inmates
Young argues that it’s probably safer to get to know a convict than to meet someone at a bar or on standard dating websites.“I heard from a lot of people there’s a lot of weirdos on there,” she said, referring to one popular matchmaking website.“You could talk to somebody on a dating site in the United States, and you could talk for like three years every day after work or something, and that person could be murdering a bunch of people and you don’t know because they’re just some everyday person, right?”By comparison, Young says, an inmate cannot just show up at your house uninvited right after you meet them.He says his statutory release date is September 2017, though he hopes to be paroled earlier.Eventually, they plan to go to school together to become child-care workers.Melissa says most of the profiled prisoners heard about the website through word of mouth and inmate committees. S., credits the website for introducing her to a convicted bank robber she hopes to marry one day.“I would marry him because I love him and I see him having a really good future now,” said Young, whose sweetheart, Steve Mehlenbacher, is serving his fourth federal sentence after a total of 16 bank-heist convictions.“We get really deep and personal in our letters about our pasts and just stuff like that, so we’re able to open up to one another.“I never was able to open up to anybody before him.”Young, 24, first connected with Mehlenbacher, 42, in November after she sent Christmas cards to a few of the inmates on the website.
During the bank robberies, he said he would slip a note to a teller warning that he was armed and that they had better hand over some cash.
It doesn’t matter, insists Melissa, who says the site helps prisoners pass the time and “get back into the swing of things” as they reconnect with women.“I’m making a difference, for sure — and that’s become most important to me,” said Melissa, whose website is open to any offender.“It doesn’t matter what they’ve done. I’m just a firm believer in redemption and rehabilitation…