Psychology of dating older men
You might invest in a decades-long relationship, believing you were loved for your ineffable self, only to find that it didn’t matter anymore once you became a woman of “a certain age.” Men would “naturally” stray to someone else’s ineffable essence accompanied by firmer breasts and shinier hair.
On the other side of the debate are the social structural theorists, who hypothesize that the difference in preferred age for a partner is the product of societally determined gender roles.
We also don’t know what string of DNA, if one exists, would keep this predisposition alive in humans today — nor how powerful it would be compared to social structural influences.
The evolutionary biologist’s perspective is usually more nuanced than a random dude’s assertion that men “just prefer” younger women.
S.: As women entered the workforce, pursued higher education at rates equal to, and eventually exceeding men’s, and fought for equal status, marriages between much older men and young women became less common.
Between 1910 and the years 2010 to 2014, Temple University graduate student Kelly Feighan found, the proportion of men who married a woman 11 or more years younger than himself declined from 18.9 percent (in first marriages) and 60.5 percent (in remarriages) to 2.3 percent and 22 percent.But it’s trumpeted in unscientific terms — wildly overstating the claims made by practicing scientists — and disseminated with the aim of shoring up a system that benefits men rather than rigorously establishing what’s true.